Some other times I feel alone in my marriage. Doctors don't have time for anything really they are overworkedand tired all the times. I have feeling you stopped pursuing anyone unlikely to go for you. There are many great and wonderful people in the church, and the real evil about the church is that it harms those great and wonderful people. That's cool and everything until you realize that they're an archeologist or a missionary pilot and are in uncivilized areas with no modern methods of communication. My kids have run as far away from medicine as possible in terms of a career and my daughter only dates people who have balance in their lives. And now, a final word: Send your query to askmormongirl gmail. Things are very hard for me right now too.
My advice would be to become as familiar as possible with her schedule, and then plan activities that will allow you both to get to know each other better, avoid movies. She was fine marrying in an LDS church instead of the temple, didn't want to convert me, and most importantly didn't try to change my beliefs or opinions. I remember attending numerous priesthood meetings by myself and wishing dad were next to me. My sisters married to the temple served a mission etcв. Well, maybe not a total disaster, that is a bit exaggerated. It sounds like she's already considered marrying you and raising children in the church even with you being out of the church. A lot of Mormons escape that pitfall and can put people first. I'm pointing this out because I don't know her and couldn't tell you what to expect. It made me sad to think that the thing that was most important my life в my faith в was something that I could never fully share with my husband.
I can handle a lot of daily mindless, nonverbal things, like cuddling for a bit before bed, but phone calls and even texting can be exhausting in a way that is very difficult to explain. I would need to ask my husband again. I have no support system; you are so fortunate to have weekly dates with your DH. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. The Church encourages people to be a good influence on one another, and she will probably expect you to dress well for her. It gives people a sense of purpose, while pressuring them to be 'good' by their book. But his absence in the spiritual side of my life, and that of my mother, was very hard. That's what good wives do, right.
Either you are just fun for now or she wants to change you. That is the shit storm on the road ahead of you. The big one is that under Mormon theology both of you must be believing, fully active members to live together in the afterlife. The church creates massive guilt and shame in children and adults usually through sex related shaming. This was hard for me because my faith is deeply rooted within me. He also doesn't let me sleep in and stay there when he leaves for work. We always went every Sunday, had family prayer and scripture reading, etc. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl.