Things have worked out pretty well with us so far. For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. Breaking up with someone solely because of religion is something people condemn alot on this sub when its a Mormon breaking it off with a non Mormon, but if floats both ways. Until then I didn't have much of a problem with his lifestyle because I still had my freedom and could focus as much as I wanted on a career. Going along with her cult might feel fine when it is just you in her, but if you have kids, it will be very different. I hate to say it, but if you are serious, go explore her world. Because I have a husband that is not a member I have a quasi like status in the ward.
I've been working like crazy myself, so it is easy for me to understand time issues involved in drs' training. That's just too high a price to pay. I also definitely don't want her raising my future children, though, and I'll be very clear about that. I have been married to a doctor for 25 years. You should ask Him what you should do, as no one else can see the end from the beginning and no one else has perfect love for you and for your potential husband.
You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. Submit a new link. That ended in OP should do the most honest thing possible. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort. And I learned how freeing that is. Honestly, I don't have very good advice, but keep being you and hopefully she won't let her religion blind her like it blinded me. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it.
And on my part, I felt I needed to go out and live harder, party more, be more social, etc. If you want to go against that trend, one of you will almost certainly change perspective. We feel good about our choices, but know it might not be the right path for everyone. We have been together for almost 6 years, so I'm well aware of what I got into, but it can still be tough. We met when he started his General Surgery residency at the hospital where I was working as a nurse. I am a non-Mormon who moved to Utah for college. Sunday is considered sacred by Mormons, and they do not undertake any entertaining or outdoor activities that result in spending, on that day. I'll keep being me and we'll see what happens. I really fell that its time for me to move on.