The average debt of a med school graduate is aboutUSDwhich normally takes up to 30 years to pay off and consequentially amounts to aroundUSD of total debt with accrued interest added in. And when you give all that you have to support someone else's dream, the money, cars, jewelry, etc mean little, unless you're a gold digger. Fist year wasn't easy as he didn't match, I moved across the states and our honeymoon consisted of moving.
When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. Like Suha, I have also been married almost 28 years and have done pretty much everything myself for so, so long. But when I am doing homework or studying, he's usually at my side trying to get my attention or laying on me or otherwise whining that I'm not paying enough attention to him. I know we don't know each other, but it seems like we all share a commonality that connects us all very deeply. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. There are billions of other girls out there who I wouldn't have issues like this with.
You'll take out the trash, coordinate all the home repairs, pay all the bills, do all the yard work and generally work your ass off until you're emotionally and physically drained. To just see ourselves as support to our husband's "noble" ambitions. I feel unwanted most of the time but I know he tries to make time. I've already approached him like a million times to ask why he has been distant with me but now I'm realising it's his work load but he doesn't want to admit it's a lot for him. I am not one to be interest with his paycheck, since i am accountant myself. I haven't read every post like you probably havebut I've read a lot of them. This also implies, there is no reason for me to further my education or career because he would prefer I have children immediately. Seems some lonely trolls out there too based on above commentor.
He was also born in Russia during the 80s and did not come to the United States until so we sometimes deal with cultural differences as well as religious. I learned, growing up, that very principle, that you HAD to marry a member or your marriage was doomed. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is.