And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. We might not always like the way some priesthood holders act, but to disparage the priesthood is not being responsible. I feel he thinks we cannot be two masters in this boat and if I am this ambituous we may never have time to have and be a family. I met my ex when he was a 2nd year resident and married him when he completed his oncology fellowship. However her husband joined the church a few years after their marriage. So, one would one think, "yay, she works, has a life and friends and has avoided the ongoing loneliness and "empty nest syndrome". After med school, after residency, after setting up a practice. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable.
I agree she should be able to watch a movie or do her own research. God told me to marry my husband. In some cases you can just simply live together with differing religions. For me, one of those bouncers is my marriage to the most wonderful woman alive. We have still not decided about us, since it is at a very early stage. I can only hope that my ex realizes and learns from the mistake he made in letting me go. RB Ruth Barb May I'm an active Mormon girl. Submit a new link.
But those days may be gone. I can see how it would be easy to think wow, I'm not even worth 3 minutes of conversation and I don't want you to feel that way. I definitely don't want to lead her on. Of course I feel slighted at times, but I check myself and remember that my SO is doing his best given all his demands. If you are not creative just copy love poems from famous romantics. Of course, your parents will care most. No one should feel excluded from the House of the Lord. Is it wrong to make those types of sacrifices.
My husband did his residency in family medicine before work hour restrictions and pulled hour work weeks just like the surgeons. Learning from a young age that any religion will do means that your children almost certainly will ultimately believe that any religion will do. My religious faith saved my sanity but I still worry. Two people can be as completely different as it is possible to be and respect each others' beliefs. I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. Am I resentful - yes!!. I feel like this pressure of finding a residency has already taken a toll in our relationship and somewhat "controlled" us for so long that I am already so tired of it. He has spent years building his practice and is a busy, highly successful pediatric surgeon who is compassionate and respected by everybody, but I think by nature, it is hard for him to be empathetic or to relate to more personal issues.
