We have been together for around three years and I feel like now more than ever he expects me to just do things his way and not have an opinion. Most couples who are married where one is a Mormon and the other isn't, usually stems from a situation where they both were married in the temple, then one of them lost their faith sometime after that. Work out as many as you can before marriage happens. Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. I don't want a life of paranoia and loneliness but she is the person I want to be with and I want to ask her the most important question of my life this summer. How do you really feel about that. In my experience discussing my fears with my husband has at times lead to arguing esp. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. If you are a believer and are willing to go, then well and good. I was thinking about this last night after listening to Radio West.
The church is really good at putting on a happy, wholesome face to show the world, but if you look behind the curtain, you see that it's a despicable cult. To her, if you don't marry in the temple, she will probably do it after you die anyway. There have been times in the last three years that we have had to live paycheck to paycheck so the idea of a rich doctor is antiquated in most cases. He has never said a disparaging word about his mother. Hi I have read all your comments and although I am not married to a Doctor my dad was a Doctor and I think marrying a Doctor is no different to marrying any man who works with his own ambitions. I am so happy to not be working in the medical field any more. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. While it's true that Mormons are not one-dimensional and completely predictable, the odds of a successful relationship, given the OP's description of his girlfriend, are slim. Do you have a few suggestions for talking points I may want to bring up from stuff directly on LDS. How do you doctor wives do it.
I then asked some questions about some of the essays, and her answer to everything is "because god. You will only have a happy relationship if either you both believe in the Mormon Church, or both do not believe. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Ultimately we broke up. I think patience and understanding is also important. No one appreciates how demanding it is unless they have lived it, many friends over the years said to me "lucky you, you are married to a Doctor. The thing I worry about is the reason that we are together is that I don't want to build my own life. I don't think you should abandon the relationship just because she is lds.
It may change your relationship to them forever. Secondly, if he's still in residency, he has to prevail and give it his all. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for four and a half years and recently broke up. I even had three kids in with me during a impromptu vaginal examination when I was preggo with my fourth. Those will make her think.
